Resmaa Menakem MSW, LICSW, noted both locally and nationally as a trauma therapist as
well as family and relationship expert, held a party last week to release his new book: “Rock the Boat: How to Use Conflict to Heal and Deepen Your Relationship” (Hazelden Publishing).
Many of you know Resmaa from his work at either African American Family Services or at the Tubman Family Alliance, particularly after his success at revamping Tubman’s intervention model brought them to the attention of one Oprah Winfrey (see his website here) and also Dr. Phil. But he has also maintained a a private practice, Unbound Resources, where he and like-minded colleagues, have worked to help couples and families heal.
His new book is a culmination of all that work, as well as his own life journey. In it he asserts that conflict is an inevitable component of every relationship.
We cannot avoid it. We can ether learn to address it courageously, or we will invariably fall back on tendencies that are both unhealthy and destructive. Instead, his book offers tools for helping each individual in the relationship find a path to grow personally. While it doesn’t guarantee that every relationship will survive, it does offer that those that survive will be deeper and more rewarding.